Question by Scrabble: Should I be upset, or is his explanation correct? I was looking at the history on our family laptop…?
I was looking at the history on our family laptop. While on Internet Explorer, I clicked on the “File / Edit / View / Favorites / Tools / Help” toolbar bar (near the top of the upper left screen). I clicked on Tools, then clicked on Internet Options, then Browsing History, then clicked the browsing history settings box, which displayed the Temporary Internet Files and History Settings, then clicked the View Files button.
One of the internet addresses was for “singlesnet.com” with the date, time and everything shown. Does this mean someone using this computer actually went to / visited that site, or (as my husband says) could it have happened when an advertisement for that website came up on the home page (but he didn’t click on it) and that’s why it appeared in the Temporary Internet Files folder? What is going on here? There were also Internet Addresses for facebook, twitter and myspace, all of which he says he doesn’t have. We have a two year old in the house, so I know it wasn’t her on the computer. Help me understand this please.
Sorry Indygirl – I’m not a “laptop cop” (you’re so funny!). In fact, I had to type the steps I did one-by-one in order as I did them because I could never, ever describe from memory what I did (how I got to the history) and how I did it unless I had posted my step-by-step clicks in a Word document and then cut and paste that to make this question. I have asked other computer questions before and people say Huh? or you couldn’t have done it that way or whatever. It was so everyone could understand the question. Thanks for your answer.
He claims to “not have” a Facebook or a Myspace account… says they’re for kids, yet – I also saw “secure” sign-in / log-on Temporary Internet File entries for those two sites.
So INDYGIRL – the greater evil is that it’s worse for me to verify his online activities – than for him to lie outright to me about his online activities?
Me think thou protest too much! Guilty conscience, perhaps?
Best answer:
Answer by Jordan M
The History only records pages that were visited. If the site was not visited, it would NOT be in the history files. Sorry….but your husband was there.
(It is so ridiculous for him to lie about something as elementary as that. A five year old will be able to explain those history files for you…)
What do you think? Answer below!
Of course he’s visiting the sites. They didn’t plant themselves there, even though he thinks you’re dumb enough to believe him. Your husband is cheating on you.
Um..hate to be the rat here, but yeah in order for the history to be recorded you would have had to actually visit that site. Sorry to say it but your hubby is BS’n you.
I think someone went to that site. And the other social networking sites, do not use popup ads.
I would search those sites to see if your husband has an account with them. You may have to create your own profile to do this.
my soon to be ex husband said the same thing! guess what? I went into his email account and found several nude pictures of himself sent to other women, and nude pictures women sent to him. not only that.. I found various singles websites, pornography sites.. you name it… it’s there.
my marriage counselor said i needed to learn how to trust him more. when i did this he found himself a girlfriend!
i wish you the best of luck and maybe he’s not lying. listen to your gut.
you should search those sites and find your husband and see what he’s up to.
only sites you visit appear on your history page.
its not that big of a deal, stop being so nosy. facebook twitter and myspace arent bad sites so dont freak out about them, and the singles.net is definatly just an advertisment that probably opened up or something.
if it was under history, then it HAD to have been visited. it it was under cookies, then it could have been spam mail, an advertisement or a spy bot.
If it showed pages & pages of activity then you should blow your stack, if it showed ONE CLICK then you should calm down…
and based on your very very very detailed retelling of how you got there it looks like you are a very very very good LapTop Cop.
xoxoxoxo
Edit:
This is NOT a computer forum requiring the SBS you put in. You wanted to snoop on your husband because you have ISSUES with him.
Just be honest about it.
LapTop Cops and Cell Phone Snoopers are no laughing matter…
My answer wasn’t intended to amuse you.
wohh…okay if its one thing.i get it..but myspace..facebook..goshh..ty looking him up on myspace and facebook..type his name..n yes he must have these things..confront him..but easily
I went through this exact same thing just a few days ago! I was playing around and saw the same website on my husbands history-asked him the same question and got the same response, and like you I didn’t quite beleive it.
Turns out my guy was taking a peek at some free porn sites, which I don’t mind, but he feels bad about, and the site popped up via a pop up add. And contrarty to what some of the other people here have said it will show up on the history if the site itself opens up-think about it this way, the pop up is an ad which won’t show up, but if the ad has a script in it to prompt the opeining of the site then it will show up.
In my husband’s case he deleted the porn because he felt bad, but didn’t even think of the other site, which had popped up behind what he was looking at and didn’t pay attention too when he closed his screen.
I was doubtful until I tried it myself and the same thing, same site even, happened. If you search for singles.net on Answers you can see a bunch of people talking about how it pops up when viewing emails and stuff.
Really the big question is if you beleive your husband-if you do don’t worry about it. If you don’t then make sure you have a valid reason for not trusting him, doe she have a history of lying to you for instance? if not, then really, please, don’t worry. In my experience not trusting someone who deserved my trust just made them feel like, if she doesn’t trust me I might as well give her a reason not to trust me.
Hope this helps!
Sounds like your husband isn’t being honest with you, and that maybe he’s even trying to meet women over the internet. You need to sit down and talk with him and try to understand why he’s going to those sites and why he’s lying to you about it.